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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich

(Because it is, right?!)

My Divorce Will Take How Long?!  ⏰  
How Do I Handle the Wait?

I hear it all the time – how quickly can I get this done? And the follow-up, how long does the average process take?

It’s understandable that once you’ve decided to move forward with divorce you want it to be done! It can seem like you’re waiting forever for your case makes its way through the snail’s-paced court system. If you feel like your life is in limbo while you wait for external forces you can’t control to give you permission to start living again, you’re not alone.

This week I go into detail about which parts of the process you can control, and which you can’t.

And importantly, what you can do to reduce your stress and manage the overwhelm, no matter where you are in the process.

It’s not about perfection!

You can find opportunities to celebrate small wins, rediscover your strength and keep making progress, one step at a time! 💝 💪

Question: 

My spouse is pressuring me to make quick decisions about our assets, but I feel unprepared. How can I assert my need for time without escalating conflict?

Answer: 

Feeling pressured to rush asset decisions can be stressful, but it’s important to advocate for yourself. This may be one of your first opportunities to set (and enforce!) new boundaries. Clearly and calmly communicate your need for time to review your options and seek professional advice from someone like a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst.

Keep communication about this topic separate from other issues to reduce overall tension and conflict. If direct communication doesn’t work, or you continue to feel pressured you may need to involve a mediator or attorney to facilitate discussions and ensure your interests are protected. Don’t apologize for taking the time you need to make informed decisions that you will feel good about long-term. 💪 💝

Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

I’m happy to share that I am now a Trusted Professional at the amazing divorce resource hub, Divorced Girl Smiling.

If you’re looking for a great podcast, a blog, and even resources like cooking classes, where and how to sell your ring, and much more, check out the site! 

I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.