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How to engage a Power Statement when you need a reminder

In season two of Ted Lasso you may remember Rebecca explaining to Keeley and Nate what she does to boost her confidence before she goes into a room of intimidating football club chairmen. She describes how she goes somewhere private, raises her arms, and makes herself as “big as possible,” to feel her own power. She uses a specific physical process to help her overcome feelings of insecurity.

I don’t know about you, but I felt her power when I watched her demonstrate that process. It’s so unexpected, and such a great reminder that we can all benefit from a healthy dose of our inner strength. Have you ever come up with a way to psych yourself up for something difficult, like an exam, a big game, or a tough conversation?

I like to call this tool – whatever you do or say to get yourself in a new mindset – your Power Statement, and I’ve found it to be remarkably handy during divorce. Here’s how I describe it:

A mantra, quote, prayer, or anything else that inspires you, helps you refocus, change perspective, and be reminded of your strengths.

Anything can be a Power Statement: a quote, song lyric, or poem you love, something you’ve written, a video, a piece of paper in your pocket, or on your phone, or a physical ritual like Rebecca has in Ted Lasso. The only thing that matters is that it speaks to you and helps you shift perspective and engage your best self.

Here are a few examples, and there are endless options to choose from. If you’ve created your divorce goals and mission statement, they can be a great source of inspiration.

• I am strong and resilient and I will get through this.
• I have done hard things before and I can do this, too.
• I am worthy of love and belonging.
• An amazing future is out there for me, and I deserve it.
• I am enough, exactly as I am.
• The serenity prayer. (This is my personal go-to)

How should you use your Power Statement?

• Say it out loud before bed each night and when you get up
• To provide focus before a difficult meeting, or interaction
• As a reminder of priorities and goals before a big decision
• When you're feeling overwhelmed and looking for some positive perspective
• Anytime you need a pick-me-up or reminder of your larger purpose

A Power Statement can be a valuable tool at any stage of life, and you might find that you have different ones for different situations.

I would love to know what you come up with! Share it with me here if you’d like. I can’t wait to see them.