The Power of Support: A Recent Reminder

by | Mar 20, 2024

Recently I ran into a dear friend I hadn’t seen in a while. She’s one of those people I always feel connected to, even if we haven’t talked or seen each other. We have a lot in common and enjoy our time together, even if it’s limited.

She and a group of us were together on a much-anticipated trip several years ago when I found out my marriage was over. I was halfway around the world, in another country, without my normal support system, and it was absolutely one of the most difficult weeks of my life. In talking with my friend last week, I learned something about that time that I did not know, and all these years later it still brought me to tears.

Eight years after it happened, I found out that my friends on that trip created a support plan to ensure I was not alone. They quietly set up a rotation, so I had someone to sit with on the bus, eat with and talk to during down time. They called to make sure I was coming to events and meals and encouraged me to come out instead of staying in by myself.

I certainly noticed their care, but I did not realize it had been so deliberate and thoughtful. I’ve been so moved to learn about this unconditional generosity, even all these years later. 

Why share this now?

I often talk to clients about the importance of a support system during divorce, as I know firsthand what a difference it makes. And, as someone going through divorce, it may give you purpose to think about what others could learn from you. You might not even be aware that you are inspiring others, including kids, family and even people you don’t know, with your actions.

My friend started this conversation by saying she thought I was brave! It’s hardly how I felt but I believe their unconditional love and support gave me courage and confidence, at a time when I truly didn’t see it in myself.

I hope all of you who are struggling with divorce, or helping someone you love to get through it, will find strength in supporting others and demonstrating bravery. You are not alone, and everyone deserves an amazing, fulfilling life full of love!

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