Why should I consider a divorce coach?

by | Nov 9, 2023

A Certified Divorce Coach will help you rediscover the strengths you already have, engage the team you need, and remind you of the wholehearted future you deserve.

If you are anywhere in the divorce process, you are likely overwhelmed by all the decisions and uncertainty in your future. You are not alone! It’s easy to spend countless sleepless nights on the computer searching for answers, or binging Netflix with the hope that when you wake up it will all be over. It’s a brutal irony that when we need to be at our best, we are feeling at our worst.

This is where a divorce coach comes in. If you find yourself needing a jumpstart, stuck and confused about where to start, or paralyzed by too much information, a divorce coach can help you sort through everything and create a plan for each step in the process. Your coach can help you identify the right questions, prioritize your focus when things feel overwhelming, offer resources and serve as an objective, professional sounding board.

Importantly, a coach will also help you to show up as your best self. Each step in the process should align with your vision of who you are at your best. This step is critical, and your coach can help you figure out what your best looks like in very specific situations (with your attorney, in court or mediation, with your kids, when you’re texting with your ex or talking to family members).

A coach will help you stay guided by intention and the vision of your best self through the process, and you can choose the support that’s right for your situation. Examples include:

  • Create a communications plan to tell kids or family about the divorce, or to support productive communications with your ex. (Download my free communications planner here)
  • Prioritize, prepare and organize. Show up with clarity and confidence for meetings with your team (this can save significant money on legal fees).
  • Build the right team – whether it’s help with finances, selling the house or refreshing yourself with a stylist, a coach will offer resources to help you succeed.
  • Take care of YOU – it’s not easy to show up as your best self when you’re emotionally exhausted, but doing so has a tremendous positive impact on the process. A coach can help you get there, even when it feels impossible. Read more about why this is so important here.
  • Transition into life after divorce – at some point you will look in the mirror and recognize that you’re ready to get out there! What will it look like to head into your Phase 2.

Engaging support can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. It is also one of the most important steps you can take in pursuit of the wholehearted future you deserve.

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” Maya Angelou