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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich
(Because it is, right?!)
That snuck up on me…my “babies” turned 25 this week! 🥳
On October 21st, my amazing twins turned 25 (pictured above a couple birthdays ago) .
This milestone birthday has made me think about how our relationship has grown and changed over the years, and what lessons I can share with you about single parenting, especially of older kids who live elsewhere.
Read the article HERE. 💝💪
Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need.
Question: My coparent has told our young child (6) that the divorce is all my fault. How do I handle this with my child and my coparent? Answer: Unfortunately, many parents feel that blaming the other parent will help the kids align with them. This is just not the case! A child needs and wants love and security from those most important in their life, and a safe place to be themselves. When they are put in the middle and forced to take care of either parent, they’re taking on adult issues. Choosing to tell a child that one parent is to “blame” for the divorce is forcing adult issues on a child. Consider this when responding to your child. You don’t have to answer the question literally. Instead, focus on them. “That must have upset you to hear that. Do you want to talk about how it feels?” Remind them that adult relationships are complicated and what matters is that both parents love and support them, and the grown-ups will handle their own issues. Give them permission to be a kid, and reassure them the adults will take care of the rest. Respectfully request that your coparent keep adult and child issues separate. If necessary, engage a parent coach to help you find ways to support the kids without putting them in the middle. Kids see themselves as part of both parents. Disparaging your coparent will only harm your child. Commit to being the safe parent for your kids. You’ll never regret it.Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!
The holiday season is coming, and it can be one of the most challenging times of the year, especially when you’re also dealing with divorce! But there are simple, effective strategies you can use to help you get through the season with confidence.
✅ You don’t have to do it all alone!
If you are already worrying about logistics and feeling anxious join me and my colleague and fellow divorce coach, Temple Trigg, for a one-time Holiday Survival Workshop on Wednesday, November 6th, 6-8 pm MST (in person in the Denver area or online).
We’ll address:
➡️ Challenging social events
➡️ Changes in schedules and parenting time
➡️ Emotional triggers
➡️ Self-care strategies, and much more
You’ll walk away with a specific plan to address the issues you’re most worried about.
For more information and registration, click below.
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I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️ program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.
I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.