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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich
(Because it is, right?!)
You’re right. Divorce isn’t fair.
It’s one of the things I hear most often when talking to clients about their situation. “It’s so unfair.”
A common narrative around divorce suggests that it’s a “split down the middle” process, but the reality is rarely so straightforward. Different aspects of divorce—emotional, financial, and certainly legal—are rarely experienced equally by both parties.
How can you cope and reframe “fairness?”
Read the article HERE. 💝💪
Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need.
Question: My ex took the dogs when we separated but now refuses to let me share time with them. What can I do? Answer: Unfortunately, despite the fact that they feel like family members, dogs are considered personal property in Colorado and many other states, just like furniture or other household items. This means that they are treated like anything else you own together, and will be part of your settlement. Ideally, you and your spouse can come to an agreement on how to share time with your pets. Options include having them travel with the kids per your parenting schedule, or even having designated weekends or vacation time. If you aren’t able to come to an arrangement yourself, you may have make the topic part of mediation or even have the court intervene. Have you asked your ex if there is any schedule that they would be comfortable with? It may at least be a starting point for discussion. If that doesn’t work hopefully when they realize what it will cost – financially and emotionally – to litigate the issue, they’ll reconsider.Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!
OUR HOLIDAY SURVIVAL WORKSHOP IS ONE WEEK FROM TODAY! 🗓
A FEW SPOTS REMAIN… ⏱
If you are worried about holiday logistics and feeling anxious join me and my colleague and fellow divorce coach, Temple Trigg, for a one-time Holiday Survival Workshop on Wednesday, November 6th, 6-8 pm MST (in person in the Denver area or online).
We’ll address:
➡️ Challenging social events
➡️ Changes in schedules and parenting time
➡️ Emotional triggers
➡️ Self-care strategies, and much more
For less than the cost of ONE therapy or coaching session, you’ll walk away with a specific plan to address the issues you’re most worried about.
For more information and registration, click below.
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I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️ program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.
I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.