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💡 5 Steps to Stay Sane When Co-Parenting Styles Clash
This week’s post is all about what to do when your parenting style feels nothing like your ex’s and how to stay grounded anyway.
If you’re tired of feeling like the “mean” parent or constantly frustrated, this one’s for you.
✨ Inside the post:
- How to focus on what really matters 🧭
- Why different rules in each house are (usually) okay 🏠
- Tips for talking through tough stuff without a blow-up 🧘
- How to be the safe, steady parent your kids rely on 🌱
- When and how to get outside support 🤝
If you’re craving more peace, clarity, and confidence you’ll want to read this one. 💛
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Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need. |
Question:
My ex lets our kids eat junk food and stay up late. I try to stick to routines and rules, but it makes me feel like the bad guy. What should I do?
Answer:
This is something a lot of parents deal with after separation, so please know you’re not the only one feeling this way.
Trying to do what’s best for your kids is frustrating when it feels like you’re the only one setting limits. And yes, being the “not-fun” parent can be exhausting.
As you probably know, structure is good for kids. The bedtime routines, the balanced meals, the limits on screen time. They may not love it right now, but these things make kids feel protected. You provide them with valuable consistency and stability.
Rather than trying to match (or undo) what’s happening at your ex’s house, focus on what you can control. Your kids will learn that both homes are different and that’s okay.
They may not say it but they know they’re safe and cared for with you.
So no, you’re not the mean parent. You’re the steady one. And that’s a pretty amazing role to play.
Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!
Did you miss this webinar on how to establish healthy coparenting and manage it during difficult times?
The replay is now live and summer planning is a great time for a communications refresh!
I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️ program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
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