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If you’re reading this newsletter, you probably faced or are currently preparing for a difficult transition. Wherever you are in your journey, how are you doing today? Are you willing to look at your year to give yourself credit for your accomplishments and be honest...

In one of my favorite books, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz shares what is essentially his code of conduct for living a fulfilling and meaningful life. In the book, Ruiz describes four agreements he argues can serve as a personal code of conduct to guide how we...

On June 20, 2024, 62 people were sworn in as the first LLPs (Licensed Legal Paraprofessionals) in Colorado. What are LLPs?Licensed Legal Paraprofessionals provide a new option for divorcing clients who may have previously elected to do everything on their own. Much...

I am a committed optimist. This can be annoying for people close to me, as I always seem to find the silver lining in difficult situations. I can reframe just about anything, sometimes before others are ready, but it’s part of how I get through hard things....

“My partner is gaslighting me.” It’s a common complaint I hear from clients – both men and women. But what does it really mean, and what can you do about it? According to an article from the Newport Institute, gaslighting is “A form of psychological abuse or...

For so many of us the holiday season is already stressful. Add in complications from divorce, and it can be even more difficult. With the traditions, family gatherings, and expectations surrounding the holidays, it’s common to feel a sense of anxiety, loneliness, or...

1. The judge / lawyer will hear my side and make things “right.” With very few exceptions, it is in your best interest to come up with a settlement that you create together with your team (lawyer, mediator, financial experts, etc.). Despite their best intentions, a...

It’s one of the things I hear most often when talking to clients about their situation. “It’s so unfair.” Chances are, you’re right. There are so many good reasons you might feel this way. First, it is a totally subjective situation! What feels fair and reasonable to...

On Monday, October 21st my amazing twins, Hannah & Max, turned 25. They spent the weekend together in New York City and I have found myself thinking about this milestone birthday and how much I’ve learned from them as they grow up. If you’ve been reading this blog...

When was the last time you really thought about the definition of a blessing? Recently, someone shared a beautiful definition with me that I had never heard, and it made me think more about the word and its meaning. This woman, I’ll call her Annie, shared that when...

A few weeks ago I wrote a blog post, “Do I really need a lawyer for my divorce?” As you might suspect, the answer depends on the specifics of your situation. If you are deciding whether to add a lawyer to your team, how do you know who is the right fit for you? What...

When I was going through divorce (and honestly, for a couple years after as well!) I admit I tried the “head in the snow” approach to the holidays: I hoped I could stay buried long enough that it would be January when I came out. Big surprise – it didn’t work. 🤣 In...

According to the Pew Research Center, the rate of divorce for people 50 and older, often referred to as “grey divorce,” has nearly doubled since the 1990s. This trend is often attributed to shifting societal norms, longer life expectancies, and changing personal...

It’s understandable that divorce is often seen through a negative lens. It almost always involves some level of emotional pain, legal challenges, and financial and social adjustment. However, the conversation around divorce is slowly shifting, with more people...

Many people ask me, “Do I really need to hire a lawyer for my divorce?” As you might suspect, the answer isn't always straightforward, so I’ve put together the following list of considerations to help you decide what’s best in your situation. As a general rule, I...