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I’m currently reading The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, which is inspiring me to pay closer attention to the many times each day that I relinquish my strength and power to others. Whether it’s worrying about what people might think, or worse, stopping myself from...

Nesting is a shared custody arrangement where the parents take turns staying in the house so the child(ren) don’t have to move. This arrangement can be beneficial for a family looking to minimize disruption for the kids, but there are also several challenges that you...

  I’m confused - what’s the difference between a therapist and divorce coach?   This is a great question that comes up often as people look for guidance during divorce. Both roles provide meaningful support, and ideally everyone could have both on their...

  A divorce mission statement can help you stay focused and accountable during divorce. These client examples can help you get started.   I’ve written before about the value of creating both a personal and a divorce mission statement during divorce, but...

If you’ve been holding on, waiting until the new year to start the divorce process, you’re not alone. Whether you made the decision recently or knew it was coming and waited out the holiday season, the steps you’ll take are the same. In addition to the “must-do’s”...

If you’re reading this newsletter, you probably faced or are currently preparing for a difficult transition. Wherever you are in your journey, how are you doing today? Are you willing to look at your year to give yourself credit for your accomplishments and be honest...

In one of my favorite books, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz shares what is essentially his code of conduct for living a fulfilling and meaningful life. In the book, Ruiz describes four agreements he argues can serve as a personal code of conduct to guide how we...

On June 20, 2024, 62 people were sworn in as the first LLPs (Licensed Legal Paraprofessionals) in Colorado. What are LLPs?Licensed Legal Paraprofessionals provide a new option for divorcing clients who may have previously elected to do everything on their own. Much...

I am a committed optimist. This can be annoying for people close to me, as I always seem to find the silver lining in difficult situations. I can reframe just about anything, sometimes before others are ready, but it’s part of how I get through hard things....

“My partner is gaslighting me.” It’s a common complaint I hear from clients – both men and women. But what does it really mean, and what can you do about it? According to an article from the Newport Institute, gaslighting is “A form of psychological abuse or...

For so many of us the holiday season is already stressful. Add in complications from divorce, and it can be even more difficult. With the traditions, family gatherings, and expectations surrounding the holidays, it’s common to feel a sense of anxiety, loneliness, or...

1. The judge / lawyer will hear my side and make things “right.” With very few exceptions, it is in your best interest to come up with a settlement that you create together with your team (lawyer, mediator, financial experts, etc.). Despite their best intentions, a...

It’s one of the things I hear most often when talking to clients about their situation. “It’s so unfair.” Chances are, you’re right. There are so many good reasons you might feel this way. First, it is a totally subjective situation! What feels fair and reasonable to...

On Monday, October 21st my amazing twins, Hannah & Max, turned 25. They spent the weekend together in New York City and I have found myself thinking about this milestone birthday and how much I’ve learned from them as they grow up. If you’ve been reading this blog...

When was the last time you really thought about the definition of a blessing? Recently, someone shared a beautiful definition with me that I had never heard, and it made me think more about the word and its meaning. This woman, I’ll call her Annie, shared that when...