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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich
(Because it is, right?!)
What assumptions are you making in divorce – and do they matter?
In one of my favorite books, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz shares what is essentially his code of conduct for living a fulfilling and meaningful life. In the book, Ruiz describes four agreements he argues can serve as a personal code of conduct to guide how we think about ourselves and act toward others.
The four agreements he outlines are:
1. Be impeccable with your word – speak with integrity.
2. Don’t take anything personally – nothing others do is because of you.
3. Don’t make assumptions – find the courage to ask questions and share what you really want.
4. Always do your best – this will change from moment to moment; for example, it will be different when you are healthy or sick.
This week I explore how assumptions can be especially harmful during a transition like divorce, and wait until you read this quote from Ruiz. 🤯
The full post is here. 💝💪
Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need.
Question: What is parallel parenting? How is it different from coparenting? Answer:Parallel parenting describes a parenting approach with little to no interaction between the parents. This may be an appropriate approach for those dealing with abuse or consistently high conflict. In this situation parents usually utilize a single method of communication, such as a parenting app, in order to significantly minimize in-person interaction or calls. Essentially this approach is for those who each need to parent the kids in their style, on their time, without collaboration or discussion along the way. 💪 💝
Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!
I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️ program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.
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