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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich
(Because it is, right?!)
Are You Considering Nesting? Read This First!
Nesting is a shared custody arrangement where parents take turns staying in the house so the kids don’t have to move.
It sounds good, but if you’re considering this option it’s important to think through some common challenges, including:
– 💵 Surprising financial realities
– 🤬 Managing arguments
– 🤐 Privacy
And don’t overlook one important step that can make or break it. ⬇️ 💝 💪
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Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need. |
Question:
My 11 year-old keeps asking who wanted the divorce. It wasn’t me but I’ve said it was mutual because I think it’s the right thing to do. Is it?
Answer:
Yes. At age 11 the most important thing on your child’s mind is their own environment, knowing they are safe, and that both parents love them. There is absolutely no reason to add to the stress that already comes with divorce by blaming one parent or the other. Your child benefits from a healthy relationship with both of you and your choice to take the high road is a gift to them – even though it can feel bitter to swallow the truth. There may be a day when they have a better understanding of the complexity and nuances of that difficult decision, but at age 11, it’s inappropriate and unnecessary to burden them with those adult issues.
Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!
✨ ✨ NEW PODCAST EPISODE! ✨ ✨
Earlier this month I spoke with Agnes Knowles of the Boomer Women’s Podcast about the rise of grey divorce and several other relevant topics:
– What coaching looks like and how it can help
– Acrimony during the process
– Adult kids and long-term friends
– The collaborative approach and collaborative law
From the host, Agnes Knowles:
“I was surprised when Andra explained the #1 question she gets asked; I was pleased with her advice to anyone going through this difficult process.”
Listen here and share this episode!
I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️ program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.
I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.