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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich

(Because it is, right?!)

My divorce is final and my ex has 30 days to finalize the items in our settlement agreement. What happens if the deadline comes and goes and things aren’t done? 🤔

Your divorce is final, but what if your ex isn’t following through?

Are there steps you can take – legal and otherwise?

From missed deadlines to ignored agreements, you’re not alone. 📑💔

This week I share questions to ask, and the steps needed to document, communicate, and take action to enforce your settlement so you can move forward with confidence. 🚀 💝 💪

Question: 

My ex wants to introduce her new partner to our kids and I am not comfortable with it. What can I do?

Answer: 

This is a common and challenging situation, and it’s natural to feel uneasy about your ex introducing a new partner.

First, remember that this is really about your children’s well-being and not how you feel about this person, or your ex’s choice to make this introduction. Start by having a respectful dialogue with your ex about your concerns, and be specific. Is there something in particular that you’re concerned about for your kid(s)? Suggest setting guidelines, such as waiting a certain amount of time before introductions or ensuring the new partner is gradually integrated into your children’s lives.

Emphasize the importance of stability and consistency for the kids, and if you and your ex aren’t on the same page you may want to consider family counseling to help navigate this new dynamic.

This is a great opportunity to ask yourself one of my favorite questions, “What is my true intention?” Is your concern for your kids or are you focused on something else? The honest answer to that will help you choose how to best address this challenge.

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Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

Parenting plans during divorce are some of the most important and challenging aspects of the process.

A fellow Certified Divorce Coach and Parenting Plan expert, Temple Trigg, MA, CDC, and I have created a one-time, two-hour workshop for any parent looking to create a plan that will hold up over time and address the particular needs of your family.

➡️ Family law attorneys – you are welcome to share with your clients
*They can bring your template and will take all their own notes to create a draft for your review and input.

                          ⬇️ Only 10 spots available so don’t wait to register! ⬇️

I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.