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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich

(Because it is, right?!)

📣 BIG NEWS: My New Divorce Support Community Is Here!

I’ve created something special just for you—and for one week only, it’s FREE to join with lifetime access 🙌 (After May 21, it’ll be $39/month to join.)

Here’s what’s waiting inside ⤵️

✨ A supportive space for anyone going through or still feeling the ripple effects of divorce
💬 Monthly group coaching calls to get real-time guidance
📚 Live workshops + expert Q&As (with replays!)
🤝 Private online forum to ask, share, and connect
🛠️ Tools, resources, and steady support from me—your divorce coach

🎯 Got questions? Still navigating challenges post-decree? You’re not alone—and this community is here to help you move forward with clarity and confidence.

Let’s tackle it all—together. 💪

Read the full post HERE, and click the link below to join!

Question: 

I am newly separated and setting up my apartment and my two elementary-age kids seem to be struggling with the transition. How can I make it easier on them? 

Answer:

I love this question – it’s so important to recognize that your kids are both resilient and strong, and looking for love and reassurance. Here are a couple ways to smooth the transition:

1. Make a schedule and share it with them. Don’t expect that they’ll remember where they are supposed to be when or who’s picking them up. Be clear and transparent so they know what to expect. Ask them if they have questions about the schedule.

2. Help them start a new routine – gathering what they need that goes between houses (homework, backpack) and figuring out what stays in each home. Importantly – don’t punish them if they forget something, especially as you are all adapting to this new normal. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt as they adjust.

3. Remind kids that nothing that’s happening is their fault, and that the adults are OK! It’s not their job to take care of the parent they’re with, or worry about the parent they’re not with. That’s the adult’s job! It’s also the parents’ responsibility to reassure the kids that they’re loved and supported wherever they are. Which leads me to the last and perhaps most important suggestion:

Make it your primary goal to create smooth, secure transitions for your kids. Evaluate every decision based on whether or not it helps you reach that goal, and the answer will often present itself. 

As I often say, energy flows where intention goes. Make it your intention to provide the love and security your kids need, and it will come together! 💪 💝

Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

➡️ JOIN ME TONIGHT at 5 pm MT

On this free, informative webinar I’ll talk with Rich Harris, managing partner at The Harris Law Firm, about specific tools and strategies to reduce conflict and improve how you communicate with your coparent during and after divorce.

These tools are helpful no matter where you are in the process.

If you find yourself struggling to reduce stress and want to prioritize your kids’ during this time, this webinar is for you! 

Registration is required and you can remain anonymous. 💪 💝

I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.