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💡 The Power of Your People: Breaking Old Patterns After Divorce

This week’s post is about the strength we draw from the people who truly see us—and how one of my dearest friends helped me rebuild after divorce.

🫶 The photo? That’s me and my friend the first year we met – we were randomly assigned freshman roommates over 35 years ago… and again, on a recent hike 💕

✨ Inside the post:

• Why post-divorce patterns are so hard to break 🔄

• The role of trusted friends in helping you rebuild 🪜

• How support, honesty, and love helped me reset 🔍💗

• Questions to ask yourself as you step into your next chapter 🚪➡️

• What kind of support to seek—and why no one does this alone 🤝

If you’re navigating your own big shift, this one’s for you. 💛

Question: 

I had the kids last weekend and made some plans with friends of ours. My coparent found out and said he didn’t like that family and asked that we not make plans with them in the future. Is this a reasonable request?

Answer:

First, is there a specific reason he doesn’t like them that would impact the safety or well-being of the kids? That may be something to consider. If, however, it’s just preference, then no, he doesn’t get to choose who you spend your time with when you have the kids, and the same applies to you. There will probably be plans that you make at some point that he doesn’t love as well. This issue comes up often during divorce and the underlying issue is usually control – it isn’t easy to accept that each parent gets to make plans that the other parent may or may not like.

If you’re feeling stressed about what the other parent is doing with the kids on their time, recognize that you want the same flexibility to make plans as you’re extending to your coparent. Try to focus instead on yourself and doing something you enjoy, rather than on something you can’t change. 💪 💝

Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

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I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

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