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💡 Summer is Almost Here… Is Your Coparenting Schedule Ready? 

This week’s post is all about navigating the summer season and how thoughtful planning, communication, and a little flexibility can go a long way.

If summer co-parenting feels overwhelming, this one’s for you.

✨ Inside the post:

• How to prep for shifting schedules ⌚

• Tips for talking through plans without turning it into a fight 🗣️

• What to do when new partners are involved in pickups 🚗

• Why keeping the big picture in mind helps your kid/s thrive 👪

 If you’re hoping for more ease, connection, and fun this season, don’t miss it. 💛

Question: 

My ex’s new partner is now doing some of the pickups and drop-offs. I hate it but my kids don’t seem to mind. What should I do?

Answer:

First, take a breath. This is one of those moments in co-parenting where your feelings are valid, and your kids’ experience matters as well. It’s perfectly normal to feel uncomfortable when new people are looped into routines that used to be just yours and your co-parent’s.

But here’s the thing: if the new partner is respectful, punctual, and your kids feel safe, this can actually be a sign of a stable support system, which benefits your kids in the long run.

You don’t have to love the arrangement. But you can set some healthy ground rules:

• Ask for a heads-up if someone new will be handling transportation.
• Confirm emergency contact info, just in case.
• Keep the communication focused on logistics, not emotions.

Remember, this isn’t about liking or trusting your ex’s new partner. It’s about making sure your kids feel secure and showing them that adults can handle transitions with maturity and grace. That’s a powerful example to set. 🙏✨

Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

Did you miss this webinar on how to establish healthy coparenting and manage it during difficult times?

The replay is now live and summer planning is a great time for a communications refresh!

I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.