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💐 Mother’s Day in the Midst of Divorce
Navigating this holiday isn’t easy—but it can be meaningful. Whether you’re the mom or helping your kids celebrate her, here’s how to take the high road (even if you’re not feeling it).

✨ Highlights:

• 💡 It’s not about you—it’s about the kids. Put their emotional safety first.

• 🎨 Help them celebrate mom. Cards, calls, little gifts = big impact.

• 💪 If you’re the mom, lower the pressure. Let go of expectations, plan something sweet for yourself.

• 🌈 Model maturity. Even if it’s tough, your kindness teaches lifelong lessons.

Your grace today becomes your kids’ emotional security tomorrow. 💛

Question: 

I have no desire to do something for my ex-wife on Mother’s Day, or to help the kids plan something for her, but I feel like you’re going to say I should. Am I correct?

Answer:

Yes, you are. As I discuss in this week’s blog post, helping your kids to celebrate the holiday is a gift to them. Whatever the issues are between the two of you, she is still your kids’ mom, and choosing not to burden your kids with the stress of your conflict is a choice you won’t regret.   

And bonus thought – what if this small gesture is the beginning of a new chapter in how the two of you communicate? Can you approach it with that intention? 

Try it! I hope it pays off. 💪 💝

Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

It was such a pleasure to join Jackie Pilossoph on the awesome Divorced Girl Smiling podcast. We talked about the benefits of starting the process with a mission statement – one of my favorite tools in this challenging process.

To create your own mission statement, download my free mini-workbook here. It includes a template and examples and lots of other valuable tools to improve communications during divorce. 💪 💝

I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.