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To my newsletter,
Divorce is A Shit Sandwich
(Because it is, right?!)
Divorce Advice is Tricky…
I generally believe people have good intentions, especially when it comes to supporting people they care about.
But have you noticed that during divorce, everyone has an opinion about what you should do? As the saying goes, if I had a nickel for every time I heard, “If I were you…”! 🤦♀️
Unfortunately, as well-intended as everyone was, the advice I got rarely aligned with my commitment to create a collaborative relationship with my ex.
I had to sort through it all and build the team that supported my vision of the future. That’s never an easy task, but it’s even harder when we’re emotionally compromised, right?
In this week’s blog post I share some things I wish I’d known, including:
💪 You are stronger and smarter than you may feel today
🦋 You are a butterfly
🤯 The “high road” is for YOU – NOT your ex
And finally, the most important thing…(hint…it’s a gift that will keep giving well beyond your divorce 💐).
Need a pep talk? Reach out! I’d love to hear about your situation. 💝
Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need.
This week’s question is from me to all of you!
I am currently writing a book for people navigating divorce, and I am putting together a chapter on great advice. It will include two sections: one from those of us who have experienced divorce, and another with general legal do’s and don’ts that can be applied to most divorce situations.
If you
1. Have gone through divorce yourself, or been impacted by it (as a sibling, child, or relative of someone going through it)
2. Are a divorce professional
I would love to hear your best advice to those navigating divorce.
To share advice for possible inclusion:
Send two-four sentences of your best advice to me here. It could be anything related to divorce that summarizes what you feel others would benefit from knowing. (Examples might include steps someone can take to improve the process itself, make it more expeditious, or improve their chances of being satisfied with the outcome.)
👉 I will collect responses through Monday, June 3rd, 2024. Please let me know whether you’d like to receive attribution or be listed as anonymous. I will confirm receipt and of course, send back to you for final approval.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!
If you’re trying to respond with strength and kindness to those telling you what to do, try these free scripts. 📕
You’ll get the tools you need to
- Set boundaries
Say what’s best for you - Share loving but firm responses to those who want to direct your divorce
I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️ program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.
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