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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich

(Because it is, right?!)

What is a Blessing? Maybe it’s not what you think…

When was the last time you really thought about the definition of a blessing? Recently, someone shared a beautiful definition with me that I had never heard, and it made me think more about the word and its meaning, and it’s surprising connection to getting through divorce.

Check it out here, and let me know how you define a blessing! 💝💪

Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need.

Question:
My kids’ other parent asked me if we can switch the holidays this year. We’ve only been divorced two years and honestly, I don’t want to change the schedule, but I also want to keep our relationship productive and respectful. How can I say no and not cause a big fight?

Answer:

It’s great that you recognize that every choice is an opportunity to build on the relationship with your coparent. However, you don’t have to accommodate every request in order to keep the relationship healthy. Try a message that keeps your boundaries and acknowledges that you’re open to changes when it works for you, i.e.

“I’m sorry, it doesn’t work for us to switch holidays this year, but if there is a particular event or time within the holidays that you’re looking for we can discuss that?”

An alternative message:

“Unfortunately that doesn’t work this year. I’m happy to talk with you about other changes you might want though.”

Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

The holiday season is coming, and it can be one of the most challenging times of the year, especially when you’re also dealing with divorce! But there are simple, effective strategies you can use to help you get through the season with confidence.

You don’t have to do it all alone!

If you are already up at night, worrying about logistics and feeling alone, join me and my colleague and fellow divorce coach, Temple Trigg, for a one-time Holiday Survival Workshop on Wednesday, November 6th, 6-8 pm MST (in person in the Denver area or online).

We’ll address:

➡️ Challenging social events

➡️ Changes in schedules and parenting time

➡️ Emotional triggers

➡️ Self-care strategies, and much more

You’ll walk away with a specific plan to address the issues you’re most worried about.

For more information and registration, click below.

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I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.