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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich
(Because it is, right?!)
A divorce mission statement can help you stay focused and accountable during divorce. These client examples can help you get started.
I’ve written before about the value of creating both a personal and a divorce mission statement during divorce, but today I also want to share real client examples you can use to draft your own.
I hope these powerful words will inspire your own practical, hands-on mission statement so you can take some of the guesswork out of each difficult decision. With goals in mind and values to guide you, clarity is easier to find.
I’ve also included the template I love.
Try it! You have nothing to lose and so much to gain. 💝💪
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Do you have a tough question? Ask away. I’ll find the right experts to weigh in and make sure you’re getting the input you need. |
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Question: When my oldest child (12) returned from her dad’s house she reported that he continually makes nasty and inappropriate comments about me and my family. How do I handle this?
Answer: This is a tricky situation because you want to confront your ex without putting your daughter in the middle or jeopardizing her trust. First, when speaking to your daughter keep the focus on her by asking how she feels when this happens, and if she would like help with some responses she can have at the ready if the situation occurs again. For example, “It upsets me when you talk about mom / grandparents that way. Can we please talk about something else?”
Of course, talking with your ex presents a different set of challenges. Is he frustrated about something specific that’s causing him to act this way? Maybe a scheduling or vacation issue that can get resolved? If not, ask if he’s aware that kids see themselves in both parents so talking negatively about mom or dad can make a child feel inadequate and insecure themselves. Ask directly that he address any issues he has with you and your family to you, and not with the kids. As a last resort you can remind him of the non-disparagement clause that is in most divorce decrees or parenting plans. It’s included there because it is painful and unhealthy for kids when this occurs, especially if it’s happening regularly.
It’s understandable that sometimes things slip out. However, if this happens consistently despite your best effort to stop it, other options include hiring a parent coach, and talking to your lawyer about legal options. |
Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!
I recently spoke with Laura Ollinger, Speaker, Teen and Parent Coach, on The Positively Healthy Mom Podcast, and we had a great conversation!
I am often asked how to talk with kids about divorce and improve coparenting, and we addressed those issues head on so you can access the tools you need to navigate divorce and thrive after!
For anyone dealing with the inevitable conflicts and challenges that come with single – and co-parenting, check it out!
Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/co-parenting-made-healthy/id1716580771?i=1000680720273
Watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=itmg5tHs3Jo
And if you’d like additional support, check out my new Guides for the Tough Conversations. Choose the one(s) you need for $9.99/each or get them all for only $29.99
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- Scripts & strategies to handle unwanted divorce advice
I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️ program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.
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