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Divorce is A Shit Sandwich

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💥 Stuck in Divorce Limbo? You Might Be in the “Messy Middle”
When it feels like nothing is happening… something actually is. 👀

Here’s what you need to know about this frustrating (but powerful) stage of divorce:

🔹 It’s quieter, but it’s still moving.
Behind the scenes, legal wheels are turning. Just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it’s stalled. ⚙️📄

🔹 You have space to focus on YOU.
This isn’t wasted time—it’s fertile ground for rebuilding your strength, identity, and vision. 🌱💪

🔹 Progress doesn’t always look like progress.
It’s not linear. Stop-and-start is normal. The key? Keep asking: What helps me feel more like me today? 💫

➡️ Read the full post to learn how to navigate the middle without losing your mind—and maybe even come out stronger than before.

Question: 

My ex is using social media to share details about our divorce and it’s making me uncomfortable and angry. What can I do to protect my privacy?

Answer:

It is frustrating and sometimes painful when your personal information is out there for the world to see. 

Here are a few simple strategies. First, resist the urge to respond online; it usually fuels the fire and rarely helps your case. Instead, document any concerning posts and speak with your attorney about whether legal action (like a non-disparagement clause or restraining order) might be appropriate. You may also want to disconnect from social media for a bit, or at least stop following your ex. This is often a difficult but very rewarding decision that will bring you peace of mind. At a minimum you can review your own privacy settings to limit exposure and block or mute accounts if necessary. And finally, if friends or family are seeing all the back-and-forth, ask them not to share the daily updates. Remember, where focus goes, energy flows.

Focus forward on the future you deserve. 💪 💝

Here I’ll share some of the books, websites, podcasts and experts to help make your journey a little less shitty!

Sometimes we all need a reminder that self-care is ESSENTIAL, not EXTRA. 💪 💝

I am a corporate communications VP turned Certified Divorce Coach, and I created the Better Than Before Divorce™️  program for those early in the divorce process who want to reduce the impact of divorce on themselves and their children, minimize conflict and come out BETTER on the other side. Throughout my career I have worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and I love using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.

My Better Than Before Divorce™️ clients benefit from my 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding and marketing, as well as my calm strength and commitment to tangible results. I am also a trained mediator, I’ve completed Colorado’s Collaborative Divorce Level I and II trainings, and I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and an M.S. in Organizational Dynamics from the University of Pennsylvania.

I hope you found this information useful. Please share your feedback HERE anytime, and visit the rest my website, betterthanbeforedivorce.com, for more information on private coaching, or the Better Than Before Divorce™ online course.